A matron's modesty is dignified: she blusheth not, neithe is she bold. Ye have each a soul to be nourished, and a mind to be taught in w'sdom, Let no one have thy confidence, O wife, saving thy husband: In the joy of a well-ordered home, be warned that this is not your rest; If ye are blessed with children, ye have a fearful pleasure, A deeper care and a higher joy, and the range of your existence is widened. If God in wisdom refuse them, thank him for an unknown mercy: Resignation sweeteneth the cup, but impatience dasheth it with vinegar. OF EDUCATION. A BABE in a house is a well-spring of pleasure, a messenger of peace and love: A resting-place for innocence on earth; a link between angels and men: And the bent unto good or evil may be given in the hours of infancy. For disposition is builded up by the fashioning of first impressions: And the habit of obedience and trust may be grafted on his mind in the cradle: Hold the little hands in prayer, teach the weak knees their kneeling; Select not to nurse thy darling one that may taint his innocence, shall approve; For a child is in a new world, and learneth somewhat every moment, His eye is quick to observe, his memory storeth in secret, His ear is greedy of knowledge, and his mind is plastic as soft wax. Beware then that he heareth what is good, that he feedeth not on evi maxims, For the seeds of first instructions are dropped into the deepest furrows. That which immemorial use hath sanctioned, seemeth to be right and true ; Therefore, let him never have to recollect the time when good things were strangers to his thought. Strive not to centre in thyself, fond mother, all his love; Nay, do not thou so selfishly, but enlarge his heart for others; Use him to sympathy betimes, that he learn to be sad with the afflicted; And check not a child in his merriment,—should not his morning be sunny' Give him not all his desire, so shalt thou strengthen him in hope; Neither stop with indulgence the fountain of his tears, so shall he fear thy firmness. Above all things graft on him subjection, yea, in the veriest trifle; Courtesy to all, reverence to some, and to thee unanswering obedience. Read thou first, and well approve, the books thou givest to thy child; But remember the weakness of his thought, and that wisdom for him must be diluted; In the honied waters of infant tales, let him taste the strong wine of truth: Pathetic stories soften the heart; but legends of terror breed midnight misery; Fairy fictions cram the mind with folly, and knowledge of evil tempteth to like evil : Be not loth to curb imagination, nor be fearful that truths will depress it; And for evil, he will learn it soon enough; be not thou the devil's envoy. Induce not precocity of intellect, for so shouldst thou nourish vanity; Neither can a plant, forced in the hot-bed, stand against the frozen breath of winter. The mind is made wealthy by ideas, but the multitude of words is a clogging weight: Therefore be understood in thy teaching, and instruct to the measure of capacity. Analogy is milk for babes, but abstract truths are strong meat; Precepts and rules are repulsive to a child, but happy illustration winneth him: In vain shalt thou preach of industry and prudence, till he learn of the bee and the ant; Dimly will he think of his soul, till the acorn and chrysalis have taught him; He will fear God in thunder, and worship his loveliness in flowers; And parables shall charm his heart, while doctrines seem dead mystery; Faith shall he learn of the husbandman casting good corn into the soil, And if thou train him to trust thee, he will not withhold his reliance from the Lord. Fearest thou the dark, poor child? I would not have thee left to thy terrors; Darkness is the semblance of evil, and nature regardeth it with dread: Yet know thy father's God is with thee still, to guard thee: It is a simple lesson of dependence, let thy tost mind anchor upon Him. Did a sudden noise affright thee? lo, this or that hath caused it: Things undefined are full of dread, and stagger stouter nerves. a The seeds of misery and madness have been sowed in the nights of in fancy: Therefore be careful that ghastly fears be not the night companions of thy child. Lo, thou art a land-mark on a hill; thy little ones copy thee in all things. Those parents are best honoured whose characters best deserve it; Begin betimes, lest thou fail of his fear; and with judgment, that thou lose not his love: Herein use good discretion, and govern not all alike, Yet, perhaps, the fault will be in thee, if kindness prove not all-sufficient. By kindness, the wolf and the zebra become docile as the spaniel and the horse: The kite feedeth with the starling, under the law of kindness: That law shall tame the fiercest, bring down the battlements of pride, Be obeyed when thou commandest; but command not often: Let thy carriage be the gentleness of love, not the stern front of tyranny Make not one child a warning to another; but chide the offender apart: For self-conceit and wounded pride rankle like poisons in the soul. A mild rebuke in the season of calmness, is better than a rod in the heat of passion, Nevertheless spare not, if thy word hath passed for punishment; Let not thy child see thee humbled, nor learn to think thee false; Suffer none to reprove thee before him, and reprove not thine own our poses by change; Yet speedily turn thou again, and reward him where thou canst, For kind encouragement in good cutteth at the roots of evil. Drive not a timid infant from his home, in the early spring-time of his life, Commit not that treasure to an hireling, nor wrench the young heart's fibres : In his helplessness leave him not alone, a stranger among strange children, Wherefore comply with an evil fashion? Is it not to spare thee trouble? | Can he gather no knowledge at thy mouth? Wilt thou yield thine honour to another? What can he gain in learning, to equal what he loseth in innocence? Than thereafter in the haunts of men, where society doth shame her into corners. My soul, look well around thee, ere thou give thy timid infant unto sorrows. And when we sported in that merry sunshine of our life, Sadness a stranger to the heart, and cheerfulness its gay inhabitant. But have ye quite forgotten how sorely ye travailed at your tasks, Or the whims of petty tyrants, children like yourselves, Or the pestilent extract of evil poured into the ear of innocence? It is dinted by every ripple, and a soft wave can smooth its surface; And seldom, when life is mature, and the strength proportioned to the burden, Will the feeling mind, that can remember acknowledge to deeper anguish, |