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shun, strive with double diligence to make home agreeable to him, and let him see that it is not in the power
a strumpet to sarpass you in sweetness of temper, and an obliging behaviour; and, that though he is so abandoned as to forget his duty, you will steadily observe your's. By this means you will in time overpower baina be your goodness ; you will strike conviction to his soul, and gain the noblest of alt conquests ; you will recover his heart, and preserve him you loves perbaps, from eternal ruin. This conduct your orin conscience must approve,
children will rojoice in the prudence of their mother.
Iam, dear Daughter,
Your affectionate Mother.
On Calumny. DEAR Sir, NO wounds can impart so keen an anguish, as those inflicted by the venomed tongue of slander: nor can any thing betray a meanness of spirit so much as enviously calumniating a fellow-creature, especially where the character is at stake; for, on : the clearness of the reputation, the most lasting and, rational happiness of man depends.
The pressure of want,, the loss of relatives and friends, and numberless other misfortunes incident to human nature, may give a temporary calamity to the soul; but it cannot be of long duration, if the integrity of the sufferer is unsullied byder traction. Internal consciousness of wocence, will prove the best antidote to this kind of poisol, by pronouncing a self-acquittal; but, even then, the baseness of a false accusation will give such a hang to the mind as will not be readily obliterated.
- The principal grievance effected by calunny is, that against virtue and worth alone are its artillery chiefly directed'; and the more illustrious the accused is, the more vehement will be the attack made by those who have not talents to qualify them for a like celebrity. The applause which is due to, and attendant on merit, is certain to raise in the narrow-minded, a desire to destroy its eminence, and reduce the possessor to the obscure level of their own mediocrity. That slander should gain such credit in the world as is too frequently experienced, appears, at first sight, rather unaccountable. One would imagine that these assassins of reputation, by, frequent practice, would have their drift detected, and gain no credit with their hearers; and such is certainly the case with the discerning few who meditate on what they hear before they take it into their belief, or venture to repeat it: but the majority of mankind act other
The affluent, and even those of casy circumstances, are frequently so confident in their own self-sufficiency, as to be wholly heedless of the welfare of others, and the lower orders of society, being in a great measure dependant on their superiors, are often mean enougli to act as they do, and rehearse as they say, without giving themselves the trouble to examine whether it is right or ärong; imagining that'a story must certainly be true, becanse it was told by a lady or a gentleman. But why should we repine? fasting happiness is not to be expected. So long as frailty is the lot of human nature, men will be subject to caprice and passions. Calumny, base as it is, if taken in one point of view, is sometimes serviceable. Were men of extraordinary talents to meet with no opposition in their career, they might, in time, grow forgetful of their duty; and, by the extravagance of their flights, cloud their most brilliant
actions. But, being checked in their ardor by the
“ Envy will merit, as it's shade, pursue ;
I am, dear Sir, your's, &c.
To à Friend, in answer to his Complaint of the
Incontinence of his Mistress. DEAR I AM sorry to learn, that you could suffer, yourself to be so idolatrously fond of any human being, as to be thrown in such a vehemence of passion at the loss of the object of your affections. I own, that when I was last with you, your
wore such a settled appearance, that I expected to have heard of your union before this time, and I am fearful that your own delay bas, in some measure, been the cause of the alteration you complain of, if any such alteration has really taken place, of which I am not quite certain. I think myself, on the present occasion, better qualified to judge impartially than yourself; for Ì regard it as a certainty, thạt people in love are like nobody else but themselves
. "My advice is, briefly this, scrutinize into your own conduct first, then carefully examine her's, and act as 'honor dictates. In her
conduct, she may be actuated by a little female levity (perhaps merely to try your temper) which, though in some measure blameable, is far from being absolutely criminal; for if you expect her not to look at, or speak to any body but yourself, your desires are unreasonable, and you expect what you never will inect with, in her, or any other woman breathing. It is a rule which I bės lieve 'admits of no exccptions, that there is no true love but what is liable to be tinctured with jea. lousy. A very distresssing anxiety will certainly possess the bosom, at the slightest prospect of losing the object of our affections. But as that person is worthy of little esteem, who can be regardless of promises and vows, once solemnly made and plighted, so far as to give cause for jealousy-it behoves all, who regard their own peace of mind, to avoid giving much way to an impulse which evinces such strength of the passions and weakness of the resolution. If, on a strict examination, you find that she has actually deserted you, in spite of all that has passed between you, and witliout any provocation on your part; consign her to that contempt she justly merits, and forget her as speedily as possible. But I am not without some apprehensions, that you will find you have injured her by unjust suspicions; if so, let the secret die here; for should she know that she had been suspected by you, it might tend to lessen you much in her esteem.
Hoping that I shall soon hear of a reconciliation (and consequently, an union. I remain
Your sincere Friend and Well-wisher.
On Honor. DEAR SIR, HONOR is what every one talks of, yet very few practise, or even understand ; though a few
minutes consideration will make its true :pature evident. It is that secret effort of the soul, which prompts a man to the practice of the moral duties; ánd, next to a true sense of religion, forms the ground-work of human happiness. Duelling, whatever be the provocation, cannot be the path of real' honor ;, as the decision is not dependant on justice. Whether a sword or a pistol be the arbitrator, it is evident—that superior skill must rule in one case, and accident in the other. It seems necessary for a man to be able to defend himself; as, in case of an attack on his person or property, redress, or protection, from human laws is not always attainable in an instant : yet, duelling is never to be vindicated, or even excused; as, in all cases, it evinces a blood-thirsty disposition. Honor is that instinctive particle in the human composition, which (if not overpowered by the tyranny' of anger, revenge, and other-like destructive passions) will direct the head and hand to rectitudeturn the heart from every thing base and profigate-correct the incroachments of false príde on the mind--and fill the soul with the milk of human kindness. It enables its possessor to look with pity on the titled villain, who, pluming himself with the lustre of his pedigree, stains, by his follies and vices, the station he ought to adorn; the elevation of which his ancestors had merited by their own genuine excellence. The man of.real honor, if his ancestry be noble, will endeavour to make himself worthy the name of their descendant, and will 'transmit their lustre (if not augmented, at least undiminished) to his posterity and, if his origin is humble, the probity of his own heart will excite within him a virtuous emulation, which will render his name superior to oblivion. Any, further remarks seem to be unnecessary. If, after.